What everybody ought to know about EXPECTING Sex on those “Special Days”


Some women do not like the pressure placed on them by the world and their husband during certain days, like Valentine’s Day, Anniversaries, Birthdays and the like.

No matter how much extra romance you employ, perhaps your wife is one of those women who would rather just enjoy being with you in a candle lit diner discussing some dreams or ideas about your future? Please be sure you are not making assumptions about your sex life.

If you have any questions at all, it is better to ask  a loving question that communicates you have their best interest at heart.

Something as gentle as  “Honey, do you feel extra pressure from me or the media to have sex with me on special or certain days of the year?

Would you rather spend the night in some other fashion?”

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This is to help you honestly assess your motives and your individual needs.

Perhaps your spouse would enjoy a leisurely sex romp with you but they need to have the pressure taken off the forced anticipation.

There could be a simple reason they are hesitant about discussing sexual issues, especially as they relate to some other person’s expectations.

Here are a few quick conversation starters to provide a framework of dialog between you two:

“If we had the absolute best sex possible, what do you need from me to help you get there?”

“What needs to start happening on our relationship to provide you with the best intimacy possible?”

“What is going well that you don’t want to change?”

“How can I become a more secure lover for you?”

“Is there something I have done or not done that has caused you some negative kickback in our intimate or sexual experiences you would like to share with me?”

“What questions do you have for me that you have been afraid to ask in our marriage so far?”

hugs_and_kisses-3260Consider what could be the best time and place to bring up these questions.  Then be willing to open your heart and mind to the exciting possibilities these questions might open in your relationship.

Maybe your husband or wife needs to be prepared to be with you in some fashion that you have not yet sorted out for you two.

Speaking with her about mood, style or activities is always essential to any enjoyable interlude.

Perhaps for the coming few weeks, think through something a bit unique for the two of you to experience.

These new experiences do not have to be way out of your comfort zone, they could simply be a change of place for your lovemaking or how you entice each other?

 Perhaps discussing sexual issues is too painful between you two at this time?

Maybe you need some expert help to manage your delicate issues?

You could see some “marriage counseling” but often there are easy adjustments and a less expensive alternative known as marriage coaching.

Counseling typically means that a problem is apparent to either partner and the other partner hesitates to go.

Coaching is designed to help you overcome some small issues and then prescribe a workable plan of action to make the necessary course adjustments.

Why suffer with misunderstandings when a few, fine-tuning exercises, would propel your marriage to greatness?

Our coaching sessions are low cost and easy to fit in your routine.

Shoot me an email and let’s begin a dialog to create the marriage you were designed to enjoy?


A large portion of couples find their marriage up against a fierce battle in the sexual department and they do not know to fix their situation.

Seek help from an expert with a sound experience background and a proven track record like Elaine and myself today.

We can help you on an individual basis if you let us.

In all aspects of marriage enrichment, we can become your secret coach to create the best possible marriage.


Always Expect The Best For Your Marriage — The Best Is Yet To Be!!! 

Your Friend and Romance Communication Coach — Jerry Stumpf 


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Jerry is a marriage relationship expert, public speaker, author of several books, blogger, certified marriage coach and marriage mentor. Jerry & Elaine host educational, actionable, & interactive marriage seminars which equip attendees with many "tools" which captivate each other in deeper conversations. Jerry has been married forty three years to the same beautiful woman. They have three children and seven grandchildren. Their greatest passion is assisting married couples to unlock each other's heart through open transparent communication, with their gentle interactive guidance.

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